I am here to share my story and inspire you to make every day better. I will share inspiration and tips on health, planning, educating and more!
My story begins with my quarter life crisis. At the age of twenty-two, on a beautiful, July, Sunday morning I was driving to a job where I had the career that I worked so hard for and thought I was destined for. Then it hit me like a freight train. I was driving to a job that I worked way to hard at, which I did not get compensated for the extra work (why did I want to be salary?). Anyways, I worked hard to make money for a life with the man of my dreams. But, I live with him and had not really seen him for a week. That is what happens when I was working about 60 hours a week (working 11 days, off 3 days, repeat) and he worked nights. It just did not make sense to me. I thought I was on a path for success, I was sure of it. But I could not be more wrong. What sense was it to literally work myself till it hurt, just to make mediocre money, but not enjoy life, not enjoy living with the man of my dreams. And the cherry on top, not be appreciated for the work I did.
So, I thought back to my college days, I thought back to what I enjoyed doing then. Mind you, I was also working myself till it hurt during college, but, I did do things I enjoyed. I thought back to how much I loved my giving back and made time to do what I love. I loved being a big sister with Big Brothers Big Sisters, enriching youths as a Public Achievement Coach with Public Achievement. So, I quit my job, took a major pay cut and followed my passion. I have sort of been wondering ever since, but I’m in control, I make the decisions, I do not let all the garbage get in the way. Instead, I enjoy life!
In my journey of finding my passion, I found myself. That sunny July Sunday in 2013, that was when I took my life back. I did not really know what I was doing, but I knew that I couldn’t keep doing what I was doing. Like I said, I was in a habit of working myself till it hurt, I would stress myself so much that I felt pain, but the doctors did not know what was wrong (only to find out after leaving a job that educed stress, that stress was the problem). So, who am I know, five years after my quarter life crisis?
Well two years ago I was someone who planned to be better, planned to be the person I wanted to be, dreamed about who she could be, but didn’t act upon it. In November 2016, after quitting yet another job that I was unhappy in, I self-proclaimed 2017 would be the year of Becky (that’s me!), of course that gave me another month to plan how I would make 2017 the year of Becky. I titled that year “Act Too: The Year of Becky”, to remind myself I must act too, not just plan. That year I acted by joining Weight Watchers in January of 2017, to take the first step of acting on my health goals. I also acted by beginning to read, something I never previously enjoyed, but wanted to start up instead of mindlessly wasting nights watching TV. I also started my master’s program in School Counseling, my new career path.
Fast forward to today, in 2018, my title is “Out of the Shoebox”. I spend a lot of time doing what is safe, what is comfortable and used to say I live in a shoebox. But, I want to challenge myself to do more, be more, and truly grow and make every day better than the last. I now view my choices and my journey as a path to be the best me I can be, that is where the new persona Bex comes into play. A past boss called me “Becks” and would leave me inspiring notes, titled Bex, I really liked it, but never truly embraced that name until now.
So here I am now, starting a new venture into the unknown, planning, and acting to make every day better, as Bex through a new platform, BetterPlanBex. I hope to inspire you all to take control of your life and aspire to be the best version of yourself.
P.S. Having trouble figuring out what the best version of yourself is? Check out this freebie (Here) that can help you figure it out. This is the framework for how I found what I am now working towards.